This 12-statement attachment style quiz compares your agreement with anxious, avoidant, secure and fearful reflection prompts. Score it privately in your browser. It is an original, unvalidated worksheet, not a diagnosis or a way to label someone else.
By Layne Weant
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It can organize what you report about reassurance, distance, clarity and mixed feelings around closeness. It cannot establish an attachment style. The four bars are averages of your answers to our prompts, with no diagnostic threshold, population norm or validated accuracy claim. Use them to choose one communication habit to inspect.
Choose a recent period you can remember clearly. Answer about your own reactions, rather than the label you hope fits you or what you think someone else would say. The middle option means neither agreement nor disagreement; it is not a substitute for an assessment. If these prompts do not fit your situation, you can stop and read the guide instead.
Your answers stay in this page while it is open. They are not sent, saved to an account or included in analytics. Closing or resetting the page clears them. Do not paste private messages into a quiz.
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Answer every question before reading the result. For the thread checklist, choose unknown when the record does not contain an answer.
Not enough contextRead all four groups together. A higher bar means stronger agreement with these three prompts in the period you chose. A tie stays a tie; there is no single attachment label or validated cutoff.
Reassurance and uncertainty were more prominent in these answers. Try one direct request for reassurance and compare what happens next.
Distance and reluctance to engage were more prominent in these answers. Consider explaining a pause and agreeing when to return to the concern.
Clarity, boundaries and repair were more prominent in these answers. Check whether those intentions are followed by consistent action.
Wanting closeness while also pulling away was more prominent in these answers. Choose one exchange and separate the wish for connection from the fear around it.
Each bar shows the average of the answers in that group on the 1–5 scale. It is not a probability, a percentile or a clinical score. Groups can overlap.
Compare with my texts — free, no card requiredQuestions 1–3 form the anxious group, 4–6 the avoidant group, 7–9 the secure group and 10–12 the fearful group. Strongly disagree is 1, disagree 2, neither 3, agree 4 and strongly agree 5. Each group adds its three answers and divides by 3. Nothing is reverse-scored, weighted by hidden rules or compared with other users.
For example, answers of 4, 3 and 5 give an average of 4.0 in that group. That is agreement with these prompts, not 80% anxious attachment. Two groups can both be high, low or tied. We keep all four visible instead of forcing a winning label.
Suppose you strongly agree that you can ask directly for reassurance. Find a recent exchange where you wanted reassurance. Read what you asked, the actual reply and your next message. A clear request that was answered is different from a hint followed by several unrelated messages. This is an illustrative check, not a claim about your answers.
Include an exchange that challenges your first interpretation. Compare a calm week with a stressful week, and note known calls, work demands or a conversation that moved offline. A message history can reveal the recorded sequence; it cannot recover feelings or events never included.
Pick a habit you can describe without a label: asking a direct question, explaining a pause, returning at an agreed time or naming one specific repair. If you want to discuss it, describe the exchange and your need rather than announcing a quiz result as a fact about either person.
When your question depends on recurrence across many exchanges, upload a conversation you have permission to analyze. Confirm the participants, dates and recovered message count before interpreting the free preview. Grey Mirror starts with completely free analysis, no card required; the full report is optional.
No. These are original reflection prompts with transparent group averages. We do not claim diagnostic validity, a population norm or an accuracy percentage. A qualified assessment involves more context than this worksheet.
Both remain visible. The quiz does not break a tie or assign a single label. Compare the specific prompts you agreed with, including the relationship and circumstances you had in mind.
No. Answer about your own reactions. Someone else’s intentions or attachment cannot be established from your answers or from a text-only record.
No. Scoring happens in this page in your browser. Answers are not sent, stored in an account, placed in a URL or included in analytics. Resetting or closing the page clears them.
A supplied history can show who started exchanges, how replies changed and what followed conflict or repair. Compare those observations with your self-report. Text analysis cannot establish the private reason for a behavior or diagnose attachment.
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Your answers describe how you remember reacting in one relationship and one chosen period.
Read your request, the actual reply and your next message before describing a recurring sequence.
Include an exchange that challenges the pattern and choose one habit you can discuss clearly.
A high bar means agreement with reflection prompts. Compare those intentions with complete exchanges; neither a quiz nor a chat record can establish an attachment diagnosis.